YOUR WORDS ARE SHARPER THAN A KNIFE

"In my home, only loving words are spoken" - Corina Jane 


This would be the first time I have written something based on depression and where it can start from. I have lived with someone with depression and anxiety for a couple of years. Before they were professionally diagnosed, I had already told this person that they had a mental illness as the signs were visible and I was that concerned, that I encouraged them to seek profession help and what I had suspected, was confirmed.

As I lived with this person, I noticed that they were full of self doubt and no matter how happy they seem, it wouldn't be long until that happy feeling faded. I knew that this DIDN'T JUST happen and that for such a behaviour to progress to a habit, I knew there was some sort of trauma that led to this. There was NO LOVE. In this case, the most important love from a parent whom as a child you should've had, wasn't received. As much as I had seen this person try to reconnect with their parent, it never pulled through. With the feeling of neglect, it contributes as to why a person can spiral down and feel alone which leads to the feeling of 'unwanted' 'unworthy' 'disappointment' 'abandonment' and so on which leads to depression. I did try offer many words of comfort, praise, strength and such but for this person to go through this type of situation, for so long, the emotion this person was feeling could not be helped by anyone's words, all they know is how they feel because they've seen and heard it from the people that were supposed to love them. I am not going to say what this person's parent said but let's just say that it was enough to make someone take their own life which they've already attempted to do just before I walked into their life.

I confronted the parent for their negligence in the way they had left their child. I stood up for what I believed was right and that was for the parent TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.

We as people have to be very careful with how we talk and treat each other. Depression doesn't just happen. If someone ONLY hears of their FAILURES and never hears any PRAISES from the people that are meant to LOVE THEM, it will lead them down this road. If someone focuses too much on what someone DIDN'T DO rather than think of the good they HAVE DONE, it will lead them down this path too. If someone doesn't FEEL LOVED enough, it can contribute to heading this way also.


Think before you speak. Your words are sharper than a knife.

- Corina Jane (CJM)