I  got married in September. But the way I got married made alot of people think: "Wow that is awesome!" So everyone has their own way of getting married but for me, I didn't see the point in putting so much funds into an occasion which is made for 2. There's nothing wrong with it but it wasn't for me. I am a simple girl but definitely different in so many ways. So my Husband and I settled on an idea of getting married in a court-house with immediately family & lunch at Mcdonalds.  Yes, I walked into Mcdonalds in my wedding dress. The looks I got that day were the looks I expected. Everyone was shocked to see a Bride having Mcdonalds on her Wedding day. But we chose Mcdonalds because it's our son's favourite place to eat and it represents us, being laid back, simple and fun. Definitely not something you see everyday. But it wasn't until a couple of days ago when I put my picture in a public thread on Facebook and the way I got married, that's when it caught the eyes of many around the world. Many congratulated us on the choice we made, others were surprised and even inspired. But in the end, I married my best friend in the fashion that explains us in a nutshell. It was all to do with love, nothing to do with money. My wedding day was beautiful because it was real and that's what made it magical. I can't tell you the feelings I felt being in that room with the closest of people because words cannot describe that wonderful and intimate moment. It was fun & I absolutely would do it over again. No stress. No drama. Just love. 

- CJM  

Too much love for Social Media?

Oh I see many couples get hate about posting too much about how much they love their boyfriends/partner/husband etc... But when is it too much?

It's never too much! (my personal opinion though)

In fact I praise those couples who are still crazy in love with each other for years and don't have a care of what anyone says about it. It's when there's inappropriate PDA (Public Display of Affection) then that's when it's too far & those things should be kept in private. I mean I don't want my 2 year old exposed to that while we're grocery shopping.

But other than that, go CRAZY! You want to express your feelings about your significant other on social media. GO FOR GOLD! You want to take silly photos and post them up, GO AHEAD! I post about my husband probably more than I should (because apparently, we have a limit haha just kidding) but I don't care for any negative thing anyone says about it.

People live in the fear of what people will say?
But why should we let outsiders opinions of us matter?
We shouldn't. We should be able to express love the way we want to.

So if you received a few bad looks because you're simply showing affection to your partner in public, let them roll their eyes. Or if you've noticed people talking about your lovey dovey facebook status's, just keep posting more.

Do what makes you happy!
Love freely, Love hard & stay happy!

- CJM

Never stop HONEYMOONING

I came across this quote & absolutely fell in love with it. Through the relationships I have been in, they've either not worked out because a) he got too comfortable b) the spark is gone c) he stopped doing what he used to do to "woo" me. Both sides have to take blame for some of the faults there after all it takes 2 to tango but I found that we were losing ourselves in the process of also trying to juggle work & finances. So I took that as a lesson on what to prevent from happening in my next relationship.

So with my husband, before we got married & we were just dating, I made it a routine of mine to always compliment him, remind him how handsome he is & just casually flirt with him. I tell him the qualities I admire about him & laugh at his jokes (just like you would on a first date - but he's actually really funny) I make him feel confident & sexy. In return, he ALWAYS calls me beautiful (with or without make up) He compliments me on how I look, what I do or even my role as a mother (that's always a "+" because mother's are overworked superheroes - we deserve to be acknowledged) He laughs at my silly ways & does remind me how much I mean to him as a parter/wife. I find that with this set in STONE (I say this term because it has to be firmly grounded in the relationship) It does help when times get rough, it does help with self esteem for myself & my husband. It helps us see the reasons why we fell in love with each other. Now that we're married & this routine still continues, even at times it gets difficult, we still bounce back quicker because we constantly remind ourselves the good qualities that are in our spouse. Yes we are STILL HONEYMOONING over each other.
Mind you, no one's relationship is perfect BUT it's how you bounce back, it's how you get over the hiccup and move on. Though we are only NEWLYWEDS and do have more obstacles to overcome, I feel like because we have established this routine in our lives prior to marriage, it's something that I can see working for us for years. Yes I know, some males do have their little slip ups (I guess we all do) But if you are feeling like you're not getting much attention from your spouse, BE VOCAL. Not in a sense where you're swearing and ripping each other's heads off but tell him/her how you're feeling & make it known. Come at a tone where it's inviting the other person to listen. If you're the receiver, take note on what your partner/spouse is unhappy with & acknowledge. Everyone wants to feel loved & be heard. 
-CJM