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"They come around like honey, cause I'm fly like a bee. Man I got 'em all buzzin', buzzin', buzzin', buzzin'. Da da da da da da da. Man I got the  world buzzin'.." - Buzzin' by Mann 

The current song on my playlist as I'm writing this.


In my recent post. I talked about being an empath. I sense people's energy and their vibe, which lets me know of their intentions towards me. Of course, I don't judge them based on it but it does help me keep my guard up and be ahead of things if it were to come crashing down.

I'm not sure if you are aware but the people you surround yourself with can also influence you, good ways and bad. Sometimes, you don't even recognise it at first. If someone likes to gossip, you will often find them socialising with others that like to gossip. If someone is all about business, you will often find them associating with those of the same mindset. If someone is optimistic, you will often find them surrounded by positive people. The same with a pessimist.

So who do you attract?

Think about it honestly.

What to do if you attract the wrong kind of people?

Check yourself. 

The energy you put out there is the same as the one you receive.

I've always believed that we are here to learn and grow. Part of that process is to be surrounded by those that can uplift you to higher places and even if at times you find yourself with the wrong crowd, there is always room for improvement. It's never too late.


- CJM

The hell with everybody

The hell with everybody!

I bet the title is enough to make you wonder what had happened? Well nothing really happened. I just remembered a piece of advice my mom gave me that I use to this day and quite frankly, I am absolutely grateful for it because I’ve used it in every stage of my life. (I do apologise if the word "hell" being used this way is offensive to anyone, feel free to replace it with "heck") 

I haven’t written in a while and the reason being is because I needed a little break from everything to refocus. In between family life and my own personal goals and ambitions, my mind was a little full on. I needed to find balance again. It is quite easy to be distracted. So I took time off from everything and I made this decision after the Dance Festival where I had the opportunity to overlook the performances for this event. From everything, I mean once I got released as the Primary Counsellor, it was time for me to use this time to take a step back completely. In this time, I re-evaluated so much, this included the people I associated with, where my time was put, me as an individual and those around me. I started to distance myself from people for a reason. Being an empath, I tend to feel energy and vibes so strongly and usually absorb their energy which does exhaust me physically. After sorting out the social aspects to it, it moved to the personal goals and ambitions to habits and family and yes, this decluttering process should’ve been done earlier. But there is a time for everything. 

That’s when I remembered my mother’s advice (her actual words): “The hell with everybody” and there are times in life, you need to just say to yourself: “The hell with everybody and everything” and take a step back and D E C L U T T E R. 

My declutter process took me to Sydney. It was a great chance to see my father for Father's Day since he lives interstate. I left with my son and husband for the weekend. It was a birthday present from my two main guys for me. We stayed in a hotel, got room service and went exploring the main tourist attractions and spent time together with my dad.

A part of me, I had missed was being adventurous. I've always had it in me but as you journey through different stages in life, you have responsibilities and priorities which take over other parts of your life. Taking a step back allowed me to re-discover myself, take risks and live a little. I gave so much to others, I never realised how much of me personally was vanishing. I'm still currently in this 'declutter process' and have come to find peace. Alot of that has to do with getting more personal with Jesus Christ and learning about his life and what he endured and how similar his trials were to what we experience in daily life. 

It's okay to leave everything on PAUSE. It's okay to declutter. It's okay to distant yourself from everything and everyone to re-focus. Don't ever feel guilty for taking a breather. You deserve a moment to yourself. Value your peace, protect it and do whatever is necessary to keep YOU close to YOU. 

"The hell with everybody and everything" 

- CJM 

It is never what it is.

Yesterday, I attended a Youth Night. This particular night is dedicated to the Youth to spend time together with their leaders and peers and to learn and grow. Last night the Young Men in Youth got together to learn songs for their upcoming camp. As I watched and listened to them sing, I reflected on how important it is in life to have support.

See, a smiling face doesn't necessarily mean that everything is perfect and tear drops don't only mean sadness. We often just assume when we see either form of expression, we take it as it is. But it never is what it appears to be. The most important necessity to have in life is support, in our triumphs and in our trials.

From a personal perspective, I've always had the right people supporting me through every part of my journey, as a child, a graduate, an employee, a mother, a wife, a leader, a performer and so on. Without the support I have received, I wouldn't know how to handle the challenges that were ahead of me. Life always seemed a bit easier when you have the right team behind you.

I have also seen how having lack of support can affect a person, mentally, socially, physically and emotionally. Someone who received close to little of support usually will doubt every decisions they make in life which will have an impact on their future life choices. This type of person will be comfortable with their own space and may find it hard to adjust to changes or to show themselves outside of their comfort zone. Life will seem twice as hard in their eyes.

Everyone needs someone to be there to assist in any way possible through their trying times or their victory. How can we be their support? Try listening. Try being actively present. Try showing affection. Try complimenting. Try without judgment offer advice that will allow them to see positively. Try serving them by doing a nice gesture. Try comforting them. Be their cheerleader at all times. No one deserves to feel lonely. All deserve to feel loved.

It never is, what it is - so be the first to show support.

Don't forget to ENJOY YOURSELF

For the past months, I have been quite busy with Dance Fitness. I had the chance to also share Dance Fitness with the little kiddies. Through this, they reminded me how much fun life is when you really don't care for the opinions of others. At first when trying something new, we will be a little shy but as we are used to it, we will forget the world and enjoy ourselves.

I'm grateful for this reminder as I travel through my journey in life and will have moments where my nerves may get the best of me. I will most definitely remember this experience and how these beautiful energetic souls reminded me of a very important life lesson.

Love,

Corina Jane (CJM)

Love her inside and out.

First, a massive HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all mothers especially my own mama! The example in my life, the Ghandi and "DR PHIL" within our family. In celebration of Mother's Day, I reflected on my own personal journey as a mother. It has been quite a journey as I'm sure many can relate but as I journeyed through, I've noticed quite alot of mothers who tend to feel overworked, under appreciated, stressed, tired and unhappy. I want to say something to you that may be feeling this way....

It's okay to NOT have everything done in 1 day. It's also okay TO TAKE A BIT OF A BREAK during your day to hit the gym, have a bar of chocolate or watch your favourite show. 

Finding balance is the key. If you are tired, stop. Breathe. Count to 3. Resume. If you get frustrated, drop what you're doing and move onto something else and come back to it later. In this world, we have this whole routine as if we have no other days to finish our laundry or dishes etc.

Not only are you the glue that holds your family together but if you are not taking care of yourself and loving yourself more, it'll be only a matter of time before it will all fall apart. Loving yourself more is giving you time to do what you enjoy, what you love, what calms you and settles you. It's taking time out from a busy schedule to zone out and breathe.

My husband and son know that I love to go to nature parks because to me, it's peaceful. It's a way for me to self reflect and to unwind and relax and today, they took me there for Mother's Day knowing that I love to do this before I start my week. This is all I need and I'm grateful that they gave 'me' that time.

You are a wonderful woman with abilities like no other. Nobody can love a child or family as a mother does. Nobody can ever replace the role of a mother. Nobody can take care of business the way a mother does. You are needed in this life but your soul and your body also needs your attention.

Love "her" inside and out. Meaning, the YOU as a mother, the YOU as a daughter of God, the YOU as an individual, the YOU as a woman.

You owe it to yourself.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! 

- Love Corina Jane (CJM)

If you have it, enjoy it. If you love it then share it.

Many people have asked me when I was going to teach again? dance again? perform again? be on stage again? Many have also asked if I was returning to it?

Truth is.
I've wanted to for a long time but as I grew older, performing was no longer a huge part of me as it used to be. Did I miss it? Yes, of course. But other areas in life start blooming and it required changes. But I knew I had talent and I very much wanted to share it with everyone. Then, an opportunity came around.

In my mind, were 2 questions. 1st was: "Do I have time for it?" and the next: "Can I commit to it?"

I've always wanted to help people in any way I can and this opportunity, I would be sharing my talent to bless the lives of others which is stated in my Patriarchal Blessing as well as helping people lose weight. So I accepted and thus became a dance instructor 4 days a week for free. I don't believe in charging people. God gave me this talent for free, I should also share it for free.

I've been doing this for a week now and I have noticed a change in myself physically. I have also had great feedback from the beautiful people that I am teaching. Their determination is what drives me. I mean, it's easy for people to just stop and give up but doing this for them and for myself with them, strives me to do the best I can every session.

There are many fields of interest that I would like to study as well as hold as an employment but I think what I'm doing now, is what I enjoy most. It's true what they say, you have to DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

For me?
I love dance and I love helping people.


- CJM

SHH! Let me speak.

I'm an advocate for any ANTI BULLYING campaign there is. I honestly think there is no place for such behaviour in our existence. In recent statistics, 3,128 people have died in 2017 from intentional self harm, otherwise known as 'suicide' in Australia. It has risen 9.1% from the previous year (2016). I'm a mother, I've seen another mother grieve over the loss of her child taking her own life. I'm a sister, I've seen a brother grieve over the loss of his sibling who took his own life. And over the years, the numbers keep rising.

An experience I've gone through has definitely made me so much more aware at how certain events that could take place in a child's early life can truly impact the rest of his life. In a confrontation that took place, the actions of another seemed to pass off as a 'small and innocent, non malicious' act, however due to the other child's feelings of being violated, it seemed as if it were pushed aside as ''nothing''. Yet I had to firmly explain to the adult that was present that, these little actions that are often overlooked as 'non malicious' or 'child's play' is the reason bullying takes place. For an environment to be able to be safe, it needs more people to be aware of how 'bullying' starts. The things they may neglect and fail to observe may be the reason a child will continue to be a victim to bullying and in this, have already failed to provide a safe environment. Don't protect the bully, protect the victim/s. Like I stated before, I'm an advocate for ANTI BULLYING. 

If the small, inappropriate acts of another isn't taken care of, corrected and straightened out with consequences, just like a virus - it will spread and as a virus takes over, just like the behaviour of a bully until he has taken a victim and that victim is dead. Starts off little, yet small enough to destroy.

Don't be the reason bullying continues, be the reason it stops. 



Love,

Corina Jane (CJM)