So lately, I've been meeting with some youth around the city I live in to find ways we can help make the world a better place, starting with our communities. It has been such a great journey.  It was great to have a deep conversation with intellectual people who share the same values as me & have the same heart. 

So the question is... "What can you do?" 


Being a mother, you know how cruel and dark the world can be and at this time, you can see things which make you feel sorry as a mother that your child has to live in a world of hate. So you want to help make a change and hope it's a better world for your children. There are many young people who find they don't fit in, who change their identities to be liked or accepted. There are many others also who feel pressured and all these feelings and emotions lead into a downward spiral which mostly ends with Suicide. So what we can do to help? 

• Find ways to connect to the youth (both young and older) 
• Invite them to local events that encourage a positive living.
• Find time to hang out with them and engage in their leisure activities. 
• Talk to them without judgment, you have to earn their trust.
• Respect is a 2 way street, so respect them also. 
• Make them feel loved, valued and appreciated. 
• Create a friendship and give them that sense of security

It's about knowing how to face situations. We often hear about the things happening to our youth but even they too don't know how to to deal with certain issues. So it's up to us (older ones) to steer them in the right direction and how to overcome the challenges they are facing or yet to face. We are all in this together, if we want change, we need to BE THE CHANGE! and like a domino effect, it will pass on to others and so on and so forth.

- CJM  

It's never easy, is it?

Today, a friend of mine was laid to rest. He passed away last week in an accident. We went to school together. He was such a bubbly person with a cheeky personality & a contagious smile. It never really is easy losing someone you love or care about. But for anyone who's having a hard time saying "Goodbye" to someone that has passed away. Remember the good times you shared together, remember exactly how you remembered them at their highest point in life. The good qualities, the laughs, the funny memories. Don't live with regret as it will only make it harder for you to move on. Instead, embrace the life he/she lived. Celebrate the life they shared with you. For me, it's comforting to know that they're with loved ones who've passed on, or that they're free from pain & that they're with their Heavenly Father now.

Always look to a brighter tomorrow with the thought that they're walking beside you, always. If you want to, talk to them. I know it may seem crazy to some people, but when you start to miss them, talk to them like you would if they were with you physically. You can't see them but they're always there listening. There are some cases where people feel their loved ones presence there or even get a signal whether it be a flicker of a light switch or an object has moved or fallen. Everyone has different ways to handle grief & if you find it hard to say goodbye, that's okay - just think of it as a "See You Later"


- CJM 

Too much love for Social Media?

Oh I see many couples get hate about posting too much about how much they love their boyfriends/partner/husband etc... But when is it too much?

It's never too much! (my personal opinion though)

In fact I praise those couples who are still crazy in love with each other for years and don't have a care of what anyone says about it. It's when there's inappropriate PDA (Public Display of Affection) then that's when it's too far & those things should be kept in private. I mean I don't want my 2 year old exposed to that while we're grocery shopping.

But other than that, go CRAZY! You want to express your feelings about your significant other on social media. GO FOR GOLD! You want to take silly photos and post them up, GO AHEAD! I post about my husband probably more than I should (because apparently, we have a limit haha just kidding) but I don't care for any negative thing anyone says about it.

People live in the fear of what people will say?
But why should we let outsiders opinions of us matter?
We shouldn't. We should be able to express love the way we want to.

So if you received a few bad looks because you're simply showing affection to your partner in public, let them roll their eyes. Or if you've noticed people talking about your lovey dovey facebook status's, just keep posting more.

Do what makes you happy!
Love freely, Love hard & stay happy!

- CJM

Do you also experience this..?

I have a 2nd blog called: "Take a peek inside my dreams.." www.secretgiftofmine.blogspot.com which is based on the spiritual side to my life. I have precognitive dreams. Dreams that foretell of things that will happen. So I decided to document things I have experienced and have come to pass. I also write about visitations I've had from my loved ones who have passed. This blog is for anyone curious to know what it feels like to have precognitive dreams or those who share the same gift or experience. Have you had any precognitive dreams? Have you experienced visitations from loved ones in a form of a dream or something else? And would love to be featured on DailyPieceofSunshine, we'd be honored to hear from you! Email them through to dailypieceofsunshine@hotmail.com If you're not interested in "Take a peek inside my dreams.."   That's okay just be respectful of those who are, life is great when you keep an open mind. Hope everyone has a great weekend & God bless x

Please note - I don't call myself a psychic as I am only beginning my journey to strengthen my ability. I'm just a young woman who wishes to share her experience. 

- CJM 

Would you take the risk?

Love.
Many definitions. 
Various forms.
Different experiences. 

I flew miles for the one I love. I'm married to him now & we are still living apart in different countries. Awaiting the day, his visa gets approved. We were given a time frame to wait so until the day we reunite, this is how we're going to live.

Is it hard? You bet it is. 
In the day time when you're busy working or doing what you need to do, you'll be fine but when it comes to night time? When you're alone? That's when it gets hard, wishing your partner was right by your side. Or when you're out shopping? You wish that they were right there shopping with you.
Many doubt the long distance but there are people who have succeeded with love this way. 

The way I look at it is, if you truly & sincerely love this person - no doubt you will climb mountains and swim the seas just to be with him/her. You would definitely take the risk of going long distance. But yes, you will have doubts in the beginning of the relationship. That's completely normal. But before you go further, how much do you trust the person you're in a long-distance relationship with? That is the IMPORTANT part in LONG DISTANCE. TRUST. If you're already second guessing, then you don't trust him/her.

Mentally prepare yourself for anything that could happen while in a long distance relationship. Preparing yourself doesn't mean you doubt anything. It just means you're prepared for anything that gets thrown at you & that way you know how to handle it.

If you're currently in a long distance relationship, we're in the same boat (except I'm married - but still the same) Keep at it though. Stay strong & never mind what people may say. Love hard & I wish you all the best!

If you're about to enter a long distance relationship - think it through. I've known some people who get into long distance relationships and then end up a total wreck when it doesn't go the way they had planned. I'm not trying to rain on your parade, I'm just giving advice. Remember all relationships should be built on trust, doesn't matter if it's long distance, same sex or what not, it's the same principal. But other than that - Love hard.

So in the end, it all comes down to... "Would you take the risk for love?"

- CJM.

He left you.... now what?

GIRL, NOW WHAT? 
You are going to get up & dust yourself off, that is what's happening now!
Forget about revenge, forget about keying his car or breaking his PS3. Let karma get him but YOU need to fix yourself & get yourself pumped & handle life again.

A guy is a guy & sometimes we meet the wrong type of one BUT that doesn't mean you need to forget about YOURSELF. Show him up by doing better than what you were. Push your boundaries baby girl & don't let him think he's won.

Distract yourself (Not with more guys) Take your frustrations out at the gym with a hard core workout sesh. Turn some "Screamo" music on & start head banging & screaming. Set up your goals & work to accomplish them. Go for a walk or a jog. Go out to a friend's place. Do anything that could take your mind off it. You know why? Because the quicker you bounce back, the quicker you can move on to better things & to a better person.

If he just up and left you, well you can up & leave your memories together too. Do better for yourself & know that you are destined for greatest. 
- CJM

No one can do this for you though?

Some people want to see change in their lives but are yet still dancing to the same music? 

This is common, where people know what to do but yet are not making the moves?

So I ask myself the question.... "Why haven't they just moved on?" 

This can go for friendships or relationships. If you are going through this, continously tell yourself that you are worth a life of peace, a life of love & happiness. Say this every. single. day. Even at times when it's hard to believe, say it to yourself. You have to train your mind to believe it. Because it's true. You deserve a life of happiness. You deserve to be with people who respect and love you. Don't settle for less. Don't settle because you're afraid. Don't settle because you're scared no one else will love you.

You have to know your worth. You are amazing. You are beautiful/handsome. You are without a doubt a fighter. No one can change your life for you, YOU hold the key.

-CJM 

Is this the end?

No, it's not.

Truthfully, we all have struggles that we face each day, some struggles are bigger than others. We will hit rock bottom at some point in life and feel like giving up. BUT DON'T GIVE UP. 

That's the secret. Take each fall as a chance to get back up, do better & work harder to get things back on track & where you want to see yourself. Set your goals & surround yourself with positive people. Remember ROME WASN'T BUILT IN A DAY. So when you feel like you can't do life anymore, get up and show the world that you are strong enough to conquer all the set backs you have faced, are face to face with now & those yet to overcome. You've got this. Keep fighting for the life you deserve.

- CJM 

Would you leave anyone behind?

I once knew a boy who came from a broken home. My family & I took him in. Surely, he didn't have the stable home or upbringing we had but we still saw the good in him. We've shown him many things & have taught him things he didn't understand at first. He's now on his own, working and doing well for himself.

We're in this journey through life together, we may be on different paths but we're all striving for something, mostly happiness. Let's help one another get there. 

- CJM 

Does he/she treat you like a DOORMAT?

Being nice is free. But people often mistake that trait as weakness and start abusing it. Some may not even know they're taking advantage of you and some purposely do it. But stand up for yourself. If you know it doesn't feel right OR you've had enough - SPEAK UP. 
It doesn't mean that you're a mean person when you tell someone what you disagree with, it just means that you know exactly how you should be treated. YOU MATTER. Don't be afraid to use your voice. Take a step back and really look at the bigger picture. Violence isn't the way to solve things. If you lose your friendship or relationship over you standing up for yourself, tell yourself that it's okay. There are more brilliant people out there waiting for your company. Don't be a doormat because each of us are meant to be treated well as long as we also treat others well. 

- CJM 

Say What?

Getting more readers, is not as easy as you think? You need to work up some material that you think may interest readers & making sure you use the right words & the purpose of your blog & making sure it's out there loud & clear. So to the people who have just joined reading "DAILYPIECEOFSUNSHINE" Welcome! Welcome! I literally say this with arms wide open. I set this blog up to try spread some positivity out there in the world. I write about life experiences from relationships to parenthood & it varies from beauty/makeup tips that interest me & may interest others. I am someone who is completely open minded and always open to hearing people's stories of their life journey and how they've have overcome the challenges that got in the way. I use my personal experience as a way to help others & I know that everyone is different BUT it's just a way of giving suggestions or advice that may help someone else. So if you have ANY stories you wish to be featured here or seek advice, please email them to dailypieceofsunshine@hotmail.com

Thanks so much for stopping by! Remember your worth. Keep smiling & Stay blessed x


- CJM 

Why, do you....?

Something I often get asked is.... "Why do you do what you do?" 

I don't get paid for helping people. I don't get a cent for each advice I give or for any time I send positivity their way. I don't ask for anything in return or want anything from those I help.

See, in my perspective, it costs $0.00 to be nice & do the right thing. It costs $0.00 to offer time to listen to someone and provide them with some encouragement. It costs $0.00 to be positive & to spread positivity. I do what I do out of love. I love to help people realize just how amazing they are. I love to push people to do greater than what they think their limits are. I love to be that sense of security when they hit rock bottom and have no one to help them.

I do this because I can't bear my son living in a world of darkness and negligence. I want to lead an example to him that when someone needs a hand, to open his heart & love. Give help without asking for anything in return & to not judge anyone, no matter what the situation is. Though this world is filled with much negativity, I want to help be that light that helps them get back on track to living a positive life. After all, life is a journey that we're all trying to get through. Why not help each other to get to where we want to be?

- CJM

Do you have a jealous friend?

This is something a quite few individuals have brought to my attention. Friends? What are friends? People we confide in? People who know us for a period of time? People we've just grown to know?

As we grow, we make friends, we lose friends, gain new ones & then we have the 'undercover' type. I'll explain what I mean. The undercover type of friend, is there for you (just like any other) but yet if you were to become successful or happy for instance - that friend begins to feel some envy towards you. 

How to know?

• Communication will cease a little. 
• Take a good look at the way they talk to you. Are they using 1 word answers? or are you always receiving short answers?
• They'll avoid talking about your good news or anything great that is occuring in your life. Sometimes it feels like they don't want to know. 
• They'll somehow direct your conversation back to them. 
• They won't ask if you need help with anything or even take interest in your life. 
• Talk about you or your life via social media or to another friend.
  

They are some things to look out for. 

But some have come to me asking, what should they do?
Easy. Do nothing but SUCCEED & embrace in your own happiness. 
A real friend will not hold anything against you certainly not your happiness or achievements. That's what friends are for. To support & to share that happiness with their friend. Keep your head high & don't let negative feelings put you off from whatever path you're on through your personal journey. Don't seek REVENGE. Instead, distance yourself a bit because sometimes they need a little space of their own to think clearly about how they are coming across. There are some situations where a friendship will either mend or it won't. The choice is yours. But have an understanding that some people envy you because where you are at your stage in life, is where they wish to be OR you have what they would like to have but haven't been able to get there just yet. Just try read people a little better then you will have a clear perspective of how to go about your friendship with that person. 

If you're the friend who's a bit envious of your friend/bestfriend, try to shake that feeling away & think of the true values of your friendship. It's easy for anyone to feel a bit jealous of their friends especially if their life seems more progressive than yours. But everyone's journey has it's own course. Everyone starts life at their own pace. 
What can you do to help? Focus on your goals & your own personal achievements. When your friend is at a 'high' so are you! Because you're friend is progressing in life, that's something to be joyous about. And a great way to use that positivity to push yourself also.

I hope this helps, remember - we're all living life & trying to make the most of it, we each have our own paths, we each have our own dreams. As friends, we have to help each other succeed & share that joy with each other.


-CJM

5 Beauty Hacks

    1. GEL LINER. 

2. EASY EYELASH GLUE APPLICATION.

Apply glue at end of bobby pin & apply to lash. 

3. PLUMP UP YOUR LASHES 

Dust some translucent powder onto your lashes & then coat lashes with

mascara. It'll give you a fuller look. 

4. MAKE LIPSTICK LAST LONGER

Hold tissue over lips and dust them with translucent powder. 

5. MORE BEAUTY HACKS 

             

It has started! Something exciting!

So since the beginning of this year, I've literally wanted to do something that I've been thinking of doing for YEARS. I guess in a way, I've had other things I had to do first before I can get this underway & today, well I just got started on this new project which was longggg overdue! But it was successful. With the help of a mentor, I'm actually quite excited! Only a few people know of what is in the works but the rest of you will find out, once it's finished. All I can say is that once this project of mine is completed, I will be one proud mommy & wife! 

For anyone who's been wanting to start something but don't know where to start? Do your research. It helps spending at least an hour on the internet looking up all the knowledge you can get to push your goals of what you wish to accomplish. Ask people, having contacts or getting in contact with people is another great way to get some answers or directions of where you should go. Believe in yourself , you can't get to where you want to be if you don't believe in YOU. Last but not least, START! Each dream or goal starts by a single step. 

- CJM 

Standing Alone

Are YOU the bird who sits with the crowd? or are YOU the bird who sits alone?

Due to my upbringing, I've always been the bird who sits alone. I've never been afraid to walk my own path or sit by myself. I've never been afraid to stand alone. 

However, standing alone isn't so easy for some people. Especially if you weren't brought up that way. It takes a lot of courage for anyone to stand alone but it is possible to do so. 

Standing alone doesn't make you a 'loner' or 'anti-social' (as some may say) It means that you're strong enough to handle things on your own with or without help. It means that no matter what happens around you or in your life, it doesn't affect you whether your friendships or relationships fall apart, you're still capable of supporting yourself because YOU'RE ALL YOU NEED. It's having a strong mentality to reassure yourself that you are complete on your own & don't need anyone else to validate your existence. 

If you are in a relationship and it's harmful & toxic, this is a perfect example of where it's necessary to "STAND ALONE" 

If your friendship is more about gossip & less about ambitions & dreams, another example of where it's necessary to "STAND ALONE" 

Don't be afraid to walk away. Know your worth. Know your circle. Love your choice. You're strong enough to do anything.

LEARN TO BE THAT BIRD THAT SITS ALONE.

- CJM

Exfoliate Lips Naturally

So, basically lately I've been researching about beauty 'fix it' methods with the use of natural ingredients. Today, I tried out this method of exfoliating specifically targeting the lips. This can help soften lips because our lips go through so much especially when it comes to weather (hot or cold) Exfoliating is to remove dead skin cells to give you that smooth skin you've always wanted.

So what you do is, take some BROWN SUGAR, add some HONEY or OLIVE OIL and mix it together so the sugar sticks together. Then rub the scrub onto your lips vigorously enough to loosen the dead skin. Let it sit for a minute & then use a damp wash cloth and wipe it off. Do apply some lip balm onto it. It says to use this method once a week (twice being the max) Give it a try. It has worked for me. 


-CJM 

Being happy is a CHOICE.

There are many people I come across that think in order for them to be happy, they must do.... and then they start naming their list. Okay, I don't know how that works? But I personally think it doesn't. While you are awaiting for certain events or what not, you're wasting time. You're letting another day go by. In order to be happy, YOU have to CHOOSE to be happy. No one has a perfect life, everyone has their own battles, struggles etc but if you can still see the light at the end of the tunnel, you have a reason to be happy. It all has to do with your mindset. Just because you see someone's always happy, it doesn't mean their life is perfect? No, it just means that even if there is so much happening (which majority of the time, there is) they CHOOSE to be happy and not let it get to them. It means that they understand that though life gets tough, it isn't worth being worried & upset about things that weigh them down. It's about being optimistic even through the times where it feels like being positive is the last thing you can be. Wake up & just be happy & smile. Listen to a cheerful song or surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Don't go searching for happiness or wait for it. You create happiness yourself. 



- CJM 

What are YOU grateful for?

Some people whinge more about what they wish they had instead of being grateful for what they already HAVE. You will see your daily miracles, if you focus more on what you have infront of you already. I don't live a perfect life nor do I try to - as I'm bound to make mistakes here and there (after all, I am human) but it's how I see life that makes me extremely happy every day. Even if I had a pretty crappy morning, it necessarily doesn't stop me from having a crappy day. Waking up with a grateful heart does wonders or even taking a break and appreciating every thing around you. So what are YOU grateful for? Embrace that. Live it. Don't waste a moment being angry and envious of what you don't have BUT start by being grateful for what you do have!